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Coaching Feedback

Marty CaganSep 3, 20244 min
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PublishedSep 3, 2024
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The article introduces a two-way feedback model that the author credits with changing how she coaches people. It argues that one-way "radical candor" style criticism can demotivate, so feedback should give both parties a chance to share perspective. The model is presented in a simplified version and in the fuller SHARED framework developed by Rebecca Zucker and Next Step Partners. Worked examples show how each step plays out in a real exec meeting. The piece matters because the author frames feedback skill as one of the most critical abilities for managers and coaches developing their people.

01Key takeaways

  • Open feedback by stating a genuine positive intention so the receiver knows you believe in their potential.
  • Describe specific observed actions and their impact rather than general judgments about someone's character or effort.
  • Ask for the other person's experience and listen for underlying assumptions before offering your own interpretation.
  • Acknowledge the other person's perspective even when your interpretation of the implications differs.
  • End feedback with a concrete coaching conversation and agreed next steps so people know what is expected going forward.

02Key sections

Why one-way feedback falls short
The author warns that radical candor can slide into blunt, one-way criticism that leaves people feeling bad. A better approach ensures the receiver can share their own perspective.
A simple version of the model
A four-step version covers leading with intent, sharing specific observations, asking for the other person's experience, and closing with a coaching conversation. It is easier to recall in the moment than the full acronym.
The full SHARED model
The SHARED framework moves from sharing intent through context, actions, results, and curious listening to discussing next steps. Each letter is a discrete step in a feedback conversation.
Worked example in an exec meeting
A concrete scenario shows a leader cutting off a colleague's concern, with each SHARED step applied to explain the behavior and its impact. It ends with a clear expectation for future meetings.
Scaling feedback skills
The author describes teaching this model to portfolio CEOs after 360 reviews, because written feedback alone was not enough to change behavior. Coaching the feedback conversation itself made a measurable difference.

03From the post

“A partnership dedicated to teaching best practices to product teams and product leaders”

“I’m a huge fan of “radical candor,” but it can be abused to just “swoop and poop” with one-way feedback that can leave people feeling…”Martina Lauchengco · SVPG
“What really made the difference was both sides feeling heard.”Martina Lauchengco · SVPG
“The solution wasn’t to just share the 360 feedback in written form; it was to help CEOs learn how to give better feedback in 1:1s.”Martina Lauchengco · SVPG

04Frameworks mentioned

Summary and takeaways written by PM Atlas; quotes are short excerpts. © the original author.