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Internal Family Systems

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Lenny’s Podcast98 min

Why not asking for what you want is holding you back

Kenneth Berger · May 19, 2024
Key learnings
  • Treat your complaints as clues: every complaint implies a dream, so reverse it into the better future you actually want.
  • Articulate your wants out loud, checking whether the dream is both inspiring and credible rather than embarrassing or unrealistic.
  • Hold a high bar for yes: anything short of an enthusiastic 'hell yes' should be treated as a no and explored further.